How can one’s spouse contribute to his or her
ministry with sportspeople? Where are the opportunities for a spouse to enhance
the ministry in a significant way? Across my twenty-three years of such
service, my service has been greatly enhanced by my wife in several ways. Let’s
consider some of the possibilities.
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A spouse can be a tremendous complement to one’s service,
in serving sportspeople in the home. In my case, my wife is tremendously gifted in
hospitality. She is an excellent and creative cook, thus part of our service of
sportspeople includes having them in our home for breakfast, dinner, dessert,
or just snacks. As we host meetings or individuals in our home, the hospitality
provided by my wife really sets the stage for my service. Her service makes
mine better. If she was not willing to have people “invade our space” it would
be much more difficult to serve and the setting for some of our most effective
service would be lost.
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A spouse can add perspective to one’s service, due to his
or her personality, experience, and giftedness. As most couples are,
my wife and I are much different in terms of style, temperament, and
giftedness. I am an extrovert, she is an introvert. She serves very naturally,
I have to think about it. She is intuitive about people and their motives, I am
much more likely to judge things by their appearance. I trust her intuition
about people and their motives. We compare notes about situations and her
counsel leads to better decisions.
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A spouse can be a valuable anchor to a sports chaplain’s busy
life of travel.
Sometimes a sports chaplain’s life may include travel with teams, to
conferences, to training events, or other travel opportunities. In my case, I
love to travel, but my wife does not. Some spouses love to travel with their
busy sports chaplain husband or wife, but others would prefer to stay home. My
wife, after forty-two years of marriage, does not want to tag along with me,
just to have me work all the time, and leaving her to hang out in a hotel room.
“No, thanks,” she says. The benefit to me is that when I travel in my sports
chaplain role, I am able to be 100% on all the time. I spend no time thinking
about pleasing her as we travel, nor adjusting to her speed. I am able to be my
intense, extroverted, deeply engaged self with total freedom. Whether your
spouse likes to travel with you or not, he or she may be a tremendous asset to
your service.
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A spouse can be an effective oasis for one’s consuming life
with people of sport.
In our roles, we often take on the stress, concerns, pain, successes, and
failures of others. This can certainly wear one down, leading to fatigue and
other effects upon our hearts. A wise, loving spouse can help distract us from
the busyness and second hand pain we bear. My wife keeps me engaged in our
extended family, helps me see other people in our community, and enables me to
serve some of the people behind the scenes of the sports world. She volunteers
in the equipment room with that staff during football preseason and then on
game days. Her care for and personal connections with these people affords me
unique opportunities to serve this often overlooked team of selfless people.
These are just a few of the myriad ways a
spouse can be a tremendous complement to a sports chaplain, a character coach,
or a sports mentor. I am reminded of the proverb, “He who finds a wife, finds a
good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord.” I have certainly found a good
wife, she is very good, and I have obtained great favor from the Lord. I pray
that you find or have found a good spouse, and that you find similar favor from
the Lord.
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