Friday, June 28, 2019

Divinely Ruined


A number of years ago, while conversing with my dear friend and ministry partner, David Maragni, he said, “Rog, we have been divinely ruined.” My friend’s simple phrase really resonated in my soul as it’s a spot on description of what the Lord has done to me. He has ruined me in so many ways that have shaped my view of the world, sport, the Church, and the Kingdom of God.

A few examples of how I am divinely ruined are listed below:
o   I prefer the sound of sport (cracks of baseballs colliding with bats) to the sounds of music (even U2).
o   I prefer the smell of ballpark grilles or the menthol in a gym to the incense in a cathedral.
o   I prefer listening to the sounds of a one hour sports practice to the sounds of my talking anywhere.
o   I prefer sporting events to motion pictures.
o   I much prefer sports culture to church culture.
o   I prefer being on the field, court, or pitch over free, first row field boxes, or luxury suites at the stadium.
o   I prefer faithfulness over fame.
o   I prefer walking through international airports over driving my car, anywhere.
o   I prefer leading a baseball chapel for 10 players in a dugout over speaking to a crowd of hundreds at a church service.
o   I prefer grace over greed.
o   I prefer relationships over religious ritual.
o   I prefer significance over celebrity.

Dave and I, possibly you as well, have been divinely ruined toward God’s purposes. He has uniquely wired us to prefer things that make most people tilt their heads and wonder, “What’s wrong with them?” We’re divinely ruined, in the best possible ways. Let’s live freely in our extraordinarily shaped souls.

Friday, June 21, 2019

The End of a Sportsperson’s Career


One unexpected, but quite fruitful discussion that occurred during May’s F.C.A. Ukraine Sports Chaplains School was, “How can we serve athletes well at the end of their sporting careers?” Everyone, everywhere encounters this issue as their careers in sport will certainly end at some point. There are a number of issues, problems, and new opportunities that come along with this season of life. We talked with our Ukrainian colleagues about those matters and an outline of our discussion. I hope it’s helpful to you.

The End of a Sportsperson’s Career

How do they end and why?
·        Age
·        Declining skills
·        Injury
·        Burnout
·        Opportunity ends (High School or College)

Issues often encountered at career’s end:
·        Loss of identity
·        Loss of income (or a dramatic drop)
·        Loss of social status
·        Loss of disciplined lifestyle
·        Loss of community

How to love and serve sportspeople as their careers end:
·        Restore or build their true identity (You are more than a _____________.) Ephesians 2:10 and other “You are…” scriptures.
·        Introduce them to a new community (the Church).
·        Help them discover a new purpose for life.
·        Help them build a new lifestyle.


Friday, June 14, 2019

Sports Chaplains and Time Management


During the days of 13-14 May, I was in Kiev, Ukraine for their annual FCA Sports Chaplains School. The gathered men and women were bright, hungry to learn, and responsive. This made for a great couple of days in which I delivered six presentations. I had asked them to outline the issues or topics they wanted me to address, and that was key to our effectiveness. The outline of one of the presentations is below. (By sending it ahead of time, they were able to translate it into Russian to better serve the attendees.)













How will you organize and prioritize your daily to do list? We all have the same 24 hours in each day. Much of our productivity in those hours is governed by how we prioritize the urgent and important matters of our lives.

Friday, June 7, 2019

A Biblical Foundation for Serving as a Sports Chaplain


During the days of 13-14 May, I was in Kiev, Ukraine for their annual F.C.A. Sports Chaplains School. The gathered men and women were bright, hungry to learn, and responsive. This made for a great couple of days in which I delivered six presentations. I had asked them to outline the issues or topics they wanted me to address, and that was key to our effectiveness. The outline of one of the presentations is below. (By sending it ahead of time, they were able to translate it into Russian to better serve the attendees.)










Note: Our colleagues serving in many places outside the USA may prefer this statement of mission.
God’s Mission for the Sports Chaplain:
Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction so that we will be able to comfort those who are in any affliction with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.” II Corinthians 1:3-4










I hope your imagination is catalyzed toward building a strong, Biblical foundation for your service as a character coach or sports chaplain.

Friday, May 31, 2019

Sports Chaplains and the Local Church


During the days of 13-14 May, I was in Kiev, Ukraine for their annual FCA Sports Chaplains School. The gathered men and women were bright, hungry to learn, and responsive. This made for a great couple of days in which I delivered six presentations. I had asked them to outline the issues or topics they wanted me to address, and that was key to our effectiveness. The outline of one of the presentations is below. (By sending it ahead of time, they were able to translate it into Russian to better serve the attendees.)
  







You may have noticed that the bulk of these slides are questions. That is purposeful as I don’t live where they do. I don’t know the local churches as they do. I don’t necessarily see the same opportunities that they do. I believe that by asking good questions, I can help them discover the opportunities that may be at their hands. I was able to point to examples of effective sports chaplain and church partnerships in various parts of the world, mostly to help catalyze their imaginations.

I hope your imagination is catalyzed toward effective, Christ-honoring partnership with the local churches in your area.

Friday, May 17, 2019

Serving Millennials and Gen Z Sportspeople


For many character coaches and sports chaplains of my generation (Baby Boomers – I’m about to turn 63) we find it difficult to connect with those we seek to serve that are among the Millennials and Generation Z. Brief descriptions of various generations are below. Much of our disconnect  is due to failing assumptions, misaligned values, and differences in communication styles. Some characteristics of these differences and some thoughts about how to better connect are below. Some of the characteristics that can present opportunities for those serving Millennials and Gen Z sportspeople are bolded.



Baby Boomers - born 1945-1964 (76 million in USA)
·        Anti-war
·        Anti-government
·        Anything is possible
·        Equal rights
·        Equal opportunities
·        Extremely loyal to their children
·        Involvement Optimism
·        Personal Gratification
·        Personal Growth
·        Question Everything
·        Spend now, worry later
·        Team Oriented
·        Transformational
·        Trust no one over 30
·        Youth
·        Work
·        Want to “make a difference.”

Generation X - born 1965-1979 (83 million in USA)
·        Balance
·        Diversity
·        Entrepreneurial
·        Fun
·        Highly Educated
·        High job expectations
·        Independent
·        Informality
·        Lack of organizational loyalty
·        Pragmatism
·        Seek life balance
·        Self-reliance
·        Skepticism/Cynical
·        Suspicious of Boomer values
·        Think Globally
·        Techno literacy

Millennials - born 1980-1994 (73 million in USA)
·        Achievement
·        Avid consumers
·        Civic Duty
·        Confidence
·        Diversity
·        Extreme fun Fun!
·        High morals
·        Highly tolerant
·        Hotly competitive
·        Like personal attention
·        Self-confident
·        Sociability
·        Members of global community
·        Most educated generation
·        Extremely techno savvy
·        Extremely spiritual
·        Now!
·        Optimism
·        Realism
·        Street smarts

Generation Z - born 1995-2015 (4-24 years of age)
• Just under 74 million in the USA
Digital natives (They grew up with smartphones.)
Diverse
Career driven from early on
• Post-Christian social context
Looking for mentors (As are Millennials.)

During the recent FCA Collegiate Ministries Conference we heard a talk by Jonathan, JP, Pokluda about ministry with Millenials and Generation Z. Below are his three primary points of emphasis.

1. Engage them with a BIG ASK and authenticity. (This will be the hardest thing you've ever done, but it will be worth it.)

2. Equip them for real life with the Bible. I Timothy 3:16-17

3. Empower them to engage and equip others. (How will you make a difference in the lives of your teammates and friends?)

Friday, May 10, 2019

Burnout Indicator Lights


During the recent Fellowship of Christian Athletes Collegiate Ministries Conference in Ft. Worth, Texas (USA), the 100+ attendees received a presentation from Licensed Professional Counselor, Kim DeRamus Lareau, related to burnout. At whatever level of sport we serve, this is certainly a possibility for sports chaplains and character coaches. Our service can be quite consuming, involve many hours, and a good deal of stress. Kim offered the points below as dashboard indicator lights. My outline of notes taken are below. Thank you, Kim.

As you are driving along in your service of sportspeople, teams, and clubs, please keep watch for these warning lights. If they’re flashing at you, please take appropriate action. We need you to be at your best to serve well.

Burnout Indicator Lights-
o   Emotional reactions don't fit the related issue. (Greater or lesser)
o   Stress related physical symptoms. (Headaches, nausea, etc.)
o   Anxiety.
o   Depression. (despair & hopelessness)
o   Cynicism. (more often in men)
o   Difficulty in letting go of perfection.
o   Decreased ability to rest or recharge.
o   Impacts upon relationships. (Self, friends, God)
o   Difficulty setting boundaries.
o   Addictive behaviors.
o   Secondary trauma. (Second hand)
o   Compassion fatigue. (Out of empathy)

Suggestions-

• Ask someone for accountability. 
• Make time for deep friendships. 
• Be mindful of fitness. 
• Practice faith disciplines.
• Recharge your passion.
• Recognize we have limited capacity. 
• Seek counseling.
• Make time for a hobby or creativity. 

Books:

Boundaries - When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud and John Townsend

Dare to Lead by Brené Brown

Healthy Emotional Spirituality: Unleashing the Power of Authentic Life in Christ by Peter Scazzero

Soul Rest by Curtis Zackery

Didn't See It Coming by Carey Nieuwhof

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