Friday, September 25, 2020

Leadership or Faithfulness?

Trends in ministry tend to shift from one area of emphasis to another, sometimes at a glacial pace and other times more quickly. One trend from the 1990s through the first years of this century was the topic of leadership in Christian ministry. Those in churches took one approach, those in parachurch organizations usually had a different angle, authors wrote their books, presenters did their training workshops, conferees attended conferences and summits, all under the assumption (and often with language like) “everything rises and falls with leadership.” Ironically, it was usually the highest ranking leader in the room who would state that. 

With the advantage of a few years to lend some perspective, and with the history of some of those who most loudly proclaimed the virtues of leadership, I am not so sure we were well served by this emphasis. It largely went unchallenged at the time, but some of us were quietly asking, “Are we really going to excuse this sort of behavior from these people, just because they are identified as leaders?” 

The tragic falls from grace by a few of the leaders many revered or gave demigod status, have jaded many and have shipwrecked the faith of many more. I believed then and more strongly believe now, that the pursuit of leadership as an end in itself is foolish and borders on idolatry. I will not mention names, though I am quite sure you have built a list of less than godly leaders in your mind. 

During that era the visionary, get-it-done, loud, and enthusiastic leader was the prototype and many of us bowed down to the pragmatic effectiveness of such leaders. Our models were more often drawn from US corporate culture than the holy scriptures, biblical models, or Christian history. 

Many of us, if not cut from that cloth, either discounted our abilities as leaders and withdrew, or with others simply put on that ill-fitting façade and tried the “fake it ‘til we make it” approach. Lots of us found that this highly demanding form of leadership, was for us, like David wearing Saul’s armor prior to taking on Goliath. Remember if you will this passage from I Samuel 17, starting at verse 37. And David said, “The Lord who delivered me from the paw of the lion and from the paw of the bear, He will deliver me from the hand of this Philistine.” And Saul said to David, “Go, and may the Lord be with you.” 38 Then Saul clothed David with his garments and put a bronze helmet on his head, and he clothed him with armor. 39 David girded his sword over his armor and tried to walk, for he had not tested them. So David said to Saul, “I cannot go with these, for I have not tested them.” And David took them off. 40 He took his stick in his hand and chose for himself five smooth stones from the brook, and put them in the shepherd’s bag which he had, even in his pouch, and his sling was in his hand; and he approached the Philistine. 

Those of us who survived the leadership culture (maybe cults) of this previous era have mostly taken off Saul’s untested armor and have gone back to our well-tested slings and stones. We have come to appreciate how our Lord has wired us as leaders, and we have approached the Philistines in faith and confidence. 

In deference to the “it all rises and falls on leadership” crowd, leadership is important. I would offer that “it all rises and falls on faithfulness.” Whatever one’s role: leader, follower, support staff, administrator, bus driver, sports chaplain, character coach or custodian, let’s aim for faithfulness.

As the Apostle Paul said in I Corinthians chapter 4 verse 2, Moreover it is required in stewards that one be found faithful. This is the measure of a steward; faithfulness more than success. Fidelity more than position. Trustworthiness more than title.

Rather than be frustrated that Saul’s armor is a poor fit, take some time to discover your unique giftedness, your calling, your leadership style, and more. Tools like this spiritual gifts survey can be helpful in determining some factors that will shape your approach to leadership - https://gifts.churchgrowth.org/spiritual-gifts-survey/gifts-survey/ You may also consider some of the leadership books that describe a wide variety of leadership styles, most importantly one in which you can be faithful. One of those is Courageous Leadership by Bill Hybels (ironic, I know). Let’s strive to be faithful to the Lord’s way, to His will, and to His calling.

Friday, September 18, 2020

Blog post for Sport/Faith/Life

Blog post for Sport/Faith/Life 

In July of 1994 I walked into the offices of Saluki Football on the campus of Southern Illinois University in Carbondale, Illinois. I went in to welcome the new thirty-four-year-old head coach for Saluki Football, Shawn Watson, back to campus. He had played here, had started his coaching career, and had just arrived on campus with a mountainous challenge and modest resources. 

During our conversation I offered to help him in any way I could, and he said, “When I played here we had team chaplain. Would you do that for me?” I agreed to do it, we prayed together, and I walked out of the office without one solitary idea of what to do. I walked down the hall to see our athletic director, Jim Hart. Jim had played eighteen years in the National Football League and I hoped he would have some ideas for me. He provided two memories of his chaplain while with the St. Louis Cardinals, Walt Enoch. 

Those simple lessons from Walt were very helpful, but I had a lot to learn. The contents of this book are the things I wish I had known when I first started. More than twenty-five years of experiences and insights are contained herein. I hope they serve you well as you serve the men and women of sport in your community. 

That is the introduction to Front Lines – Becoming an Effective Sports Chaplain or Character Coach. The book was published in May of 2020 by Cross Training Publishing. 

A couple years ago I was chatting with a sports chaplaincy colleague from the United Kingdom. He asked if I would consider putting together a book for those who serve as sports chaplains, one that would contain very practical thoughts, virtually a, “how to guide.” As I began to contemplate his request and to incubate some thoughts about content, I realized that’s largely what I have been writing in weekly blog posts since 2007. 

That blog can be found at - http://sportchaplainsportmentor.blogspot.com, and I began writing it simply because of the terrible dearth of quality resources available for those who serve in this form of Christian ministry. As I would observe others’ excellence in ministry, I would share what I saw. If I had stumbled upon some that was effective, I would write about that. As I encountered applicable ideas in conferences, in books or periodicals, I would share them with my list of around 500 sports chaplains around the world via email and would archive them in the blog. 

I gathered a number of posts I thought could work for content in such a book but needed a way for it to have some sense of form for the book to have practical value to the reader. For that form I chose this outline: 

Sports Chaplaincy Essentials – there are certain things that everyone who serves as a sports chaplain should embody, believe, and to which he or she should hold tightly. 
Character Qualities – persistence, intuition, confidence, empathy, loyalty, and more. 
Identity – having a firm grasp of our true identity and its enemies is absolutely essential. 
Values – these chapters call the reader to embrace a set of essential values for wise and effective service. 

How to Start – this is, for many, the most difficult part of the process and this section probes multiple layers of starting service of a team or a new season. 

How to Serve - People – how we serve various sets of people can vary widely. 
Teams – settings, sports cultures, and levels of sport all shape our opportunities. 
Values – holding to proper values will enhance our ministries, but a foolish approach will diminish them. 

How to Serve - Processes – there are many ways to grow, to develop, and to endure in this ministry. 
Values – this may be the most challenging segment of the book. 
Professional Development – there are ways we can purposefully grow and strengthen our ministries. Pick some. Do them. 
Self-Care – this may be the most overlooked element of Christian ministry. A few ideas for how to endure in ministry are listed here. 

How to Serve - Situations – a wide variety of experiences are chronicled here, from my own experiences or those of colleagues. 
Daily Life – ideas for evaluation, design, and execution of ministry strategies are outlined in this chapter. 
Critical Incidents and Crises – some very practical ideas and a few stories of having served in moments of crisis, pressure, and chaos are chronicled in this challenging chapter. 

How to Finish – to have a plan for walking along with those finishing a season, a coaching staff’s tenure with your club, a player’s or coach’s career, and one’s own service as a sports chaplain is immeasurably valuable. 

Appendix: Resources, Bibliography, and Links – a number of on-line resources, books, websites, YouTube channels, and more are listed with QR codes to expedite one’s connecting to them via smart phone. 

Having served in this role for over twenty-six years, having a global network of colleagues and friends in sports chaplaincy, and having lived sixty-four years, have been of marginal value in this present, COVID-19 virus infested season of life. However, the truth of Holy Scripture, the power and presence of the Holy Spirit, my family, and the lessons learned across the years, those now chronicled in this book have led to new, innovative, and dynamic forms of ministry. Let’s lean into who we are and what we know to do as we stride boldly into all God has prepared for us.

Friday, September 11, 2020

An Open Letter to the College Athlete in 2020.

Below is an article written this week by a Southern Illinois University (USA) Women’s Soccer player and member of our FCA huddle. I find it to be very good. You may want to share it with the people of sport in your ministry.

An Open Letter to the College Athlete in 2020.

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“In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” John 16:33
Postponed. Cancelled. Rescheduled. Hearing any one of those three words has caused my heart to drop on multiple occasions. Unfortunately, these three words have been a constant basis dictating the reality in which we have lived for the past seven months. A countless number of athletes around me have come forward, admitting how mentally tough it is to continue training in the midst of so much uncertainty, and I can relate. I spent months training in order to be fit for my season only to be told “the season has been postponed.” I was upset of course, but I picked myself up and continued to push out of respect for the few games that I was told that I would get to play this fall. A few weeks passed until I was told those four words that no athlete ever wants to hear: “the season is cancelled.”
For those of you continuing to train every single day without the incentive of competing against an opponent- keep pushing. You are not alone, and the work you are putting in has not gone unnoticed. I am in no way, shape, or form suggesting that it will be easy. It will be very hard, and there will be many days when you simply do not want to roll up the sleeves and do the work that you know you need to do. Competition or not, run in a way that will win the race. When you are feeling tempted to throw in the towel and simply go through the motions, I urge you to remember 1 Corinthians 9:24, which says, “Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize? Run in such a way as to get the prize.” Be disciplined enough to continue working just as hard even when there is no definite end in sight. Also remember that the race is not only run on the track, on the field, in the pool, or in the gym, but it is also run in the classroom, in the community, and especially in secret when nobody is watching. 
For those of you who are either in quarantine or are not actively practicing with your teammates right now, you probably bear a mental burden that is even greater than the burden carried by the rest of us. If you are anything like me, you are guilty of basing your entire identity off of the sport you play. With such a limited mindset, it will be impossible to operate as you normally would now that your sport has been taken out of the picture. I encourage you to use your time wisely by thinking a little deeper. Who do you want to be after you hang up the cleats and turn in the uniform? A mentor? A leader? What do you want to be known for? Your kindness? Your confidence? Take the time you have now to develop the life-long qualities that you aspire to possess. Regardless of whether it occurs sooner or later, we will all face the inevitable reality of saying goodbye to the sport we love. You are more than the sport you play. 
For those of you who are seniors and have decided to move on without the sport you love whether by choice or by force, all I know to say is I am so sorry. My heart is breaking for you. Romans 8:18 is a good place to start. You are not the sport you play. It is worth saying twice. 
Others of you probably feel like you are being robbed of a “normal” college experience. But then again you have never been “normal”. I implore you to stop for a second and remember everything it cost you to make it this far. When your classmates were out partying you were in the gym, working. When your friends were hosting bonfires and movie nights and get-togethers on the weekends, where were you? Probably either at a tournament trying to get recruited or practicing in order to get ready for the next tournament or the next competition. If your passion towards your sport is not unmatched, then you should probably rethink why you are doing this in the first place. If you are a college athlete, nothing about you should be “normal”, including your experience playing at the highest level. We all know by now that the pursuit of athletic success requires sacrifice. You know as well as I do that sacrifices of time, of social opportunities, and of average college experiences are mandatory trade-offs at the collegiate level. No great athlete ever graduated without making sacrifices. If you love what you do then that should not be a problem. 
I feel safe making the assumption that most of you, as collegiate athletes, have experienced enough adversity in your lifetime to overcome the race that is ahead of you now. Run it with confidence. We will play the sports we love again. When the time comes, make sure you are ready. 
Kailyn Stone
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Friday, September 4, 2020

Life in Turbulent Times


Last week I had a meeting with Saluki Women’s Golf and I shared some simple thoughts about how to manage everyday life and golf in these turbulent times. The summary slide is below. It’s really simple, but I think these ideas would also be of great value to each of us and to those we serve.