Book Recommendations: Coaching and Leadership

For the next several posts in this series, I will be making some book recommendations in various categories. The lists will neither be exhaustive nor full scale endorsements of everything in each one. I generally read to learn (not to be entertained) and welcome points of view from a broad perspective. 

The books mentioned will categorized this way: 

• Biographies
• Favorite authors
• Sport
• Theology
• Coaching
• Leadership
• Psychology
• Business Management
• History
• Christian Living

​Coaching - 

InSideOut Coaching by Joe Ehrmann - I believe this to be the best coaching book I have ever read. Joe outlines the difference between Transactional Coaches and Transformational Coaches. Further, he provides excellent models for transformational coaching, tips for shaping one's coaching, and inspiration for coaching in this manner. I highly recommend this book.

Season of Life by Jeffrey Marx - This book was my introduction to Coach Joe Ehrmann and his remarkable life story. It's an amazingly engaging read, telling Joe's story from childhood, through Syracuse University, the NFL, through the death of his brother, life in seminary, as a pastor, and eventually as a football coach with Gilman High School in Baltimore. This is a tremendous book full of inspiration and insight.

3D Coaching by Dr. Jeff Duke - This book chronicles Jeff's path through coaching at various levels of sport and how he learned to apply academic research to the practice of coaching. This is an easy read with many ideas presented for immediate application. 

Leadership - 

Heroic Leadership by Chris Lowney - This excellent book is a thorough look at the leadership principles and practices of the Jesuits. The "Company of Jesus" and its founder, Ignatius Loyola are the centerpiece of the book and the model for leadership advanced on every page. This Protestant reader was thankful and frankly surprised by the simple, clear, and effective leadership lessons provided.

Leaders Who Last by Dave Kraft - This book is quite practical and is informed by the author's long years of service in the Church. Of particular interest to me was the excellent outline for writing a life purpose statement. I use it myself, and I have shared it with many others. This is a good one.

Courageous Leadership by Bill Hybels - Despite the red flags just raised in your mind from Hybels' messy departure from Willow Creek, the models for development of leaders in this book are outstanding. In particular, his outline of various leadership styles and ways leaders nurture their development are very useful. 

Leaders Eat Last by Simon Sinek - This book gathers models and examples from a wide range of societal backgrounds. The author writes with great detail and an engaging style. 

Legacy by James Kerr - This is a winner! Fifteen leadership lessons have been gathered from the New Zealand All Blacks Rugby team and its culture. This is not a "Christian" book, but its lessons are well presented the stories are told well.

Spiritual Leadership by J. Oswald Sanders - Finally, this classic endures well and is as applicable as ever. This book shares timeless leadership principles drawn from the scriptures. It may be the best of the whole lot.

Book Recommendations - Sport and Theology

For the next several posts in this series, I will be making some book recommendations in various categories. The lists will neither be exhaustive nor full scale endorsements of everything in each one. I generally read to learn (not to be entertained) and welcome points of view from a broad perspective. 

The books mentioned will categorized this way: 

• Biographies
• Favorite authors
• Sport
• Theology
• Coaching
• Leadership
• Psychology
• Business Management
• History
• Christian Living

​Sport -

The Matheny Manifesto - A Young Manager's Old-School Views on Success in Sports and Life by Mike Matheny - As sport in the USA, particularly youth sport, has changed in recent years, this former MLB player and manager has expressed his views on how athletes and their parents should approach sport and life. I found this to be a refreshing and challenging read.

Onward Christian Athletes: Turning Ballparks into Pulpits and Players into Preachers by Thomas Krattenmaker - This author pokes Christian Sports Ministries right in the eye as he challenges many of our practices and our ethics. The trouble is, he's often correct in his observations. For people like me, this book is tremendously challenging, but also helpful. There is much the author doesn't understand, but his critical remarks can lead us to improvements in our delivery of service of Christ and His people in sport.

Focus on Sport In Ministry by Lowrie McCown and Valerie J. Gin - I am privileged to know these authors and to count them as friends. It was remarkable to see the genesis of these ideas, to see the development of this book as it happened, and to use it as a valued resource for my ministry in sport. I believe this is an essential read for anyone involved in any form of sports ministry.

Theology - 

Eugene Peterson's Spiritual Theology - Christ Plays in Ten Thousand Places, Practice Resurrection, The Jesus Way, Eat This Book, and Tell It Slant. I began reading this series about twenty years ago, and have enjoyed each one. Peterson writes with imagination, depth, and insight. I recommend starting with Christ Plays in Ten Thousand Places​.

Gentle and Lowly by Dane Ortland - A friend recommended this book to me and I have recommended it widely since I first read it. This book is a balm for your soul. It will encourage you and wrap your heart in a warm blanket of comfort, assurance, and grace.

Foundations of the Christian Faith by James Montgomery Boice - This book's subtitle is, A Comprehensive and Readable Theology. It is certainly that. Boice wrote this systematic theology for college students and it is a treasure for the not or not yet seminary trained disciple of Christ. I read this in the mid-1980s and have given multiple copies to my friends as they embarked upon their seminary education.

Evangelism and The Sovereignty of God by J. I. Packer - This book has been foundational to my approach to evangelism and discipleship since I first read it in the late 1980s. I have read it multiple times since. Packer's succinct writing and practical approach to this subject has been a tremendous gift to my ministry.

Book Recommendations - Biography and Favorite Authors

 For the next several posts in this series, I will be making some book recommendations in various categories. The lists will neither be exhaustive nor full scale endorsements of everything in each one. I generally read to learn (not to be entertained) and welcome points of view from a broad perspective. 

The books mentioned will categorized this way: 

• Biographies
• Favorite authors
• Sport
• Theology
• Coaching
• Leadership
• Psychology
• Business Management
• History
• ​Christian Living
  

​Biography - 

Open: An Autobiography by Andre Agassi - This remarkably candid and occasionally painful read provides tremendous insight into the heart and mind of a high profile, elite professional tennis player.

Surrender: 40 Songs, One Story by Bono (Paul Hewson) - I have been a fan of U2's music since Joshua Tree in the 1980s. This book provides tremendous insight into the band's origins, its growth and development, its influences, and the lives of its members. This is fascinating stuff for a man with virtually no musical ability.

Pistol: The Life of Pete Maravich by Mark Kriegel - This book shared a lot more of Pete's father's story than I wanted to know, but eventually chronicles the successes and failures of a uniquely accomplished basketball legend.

The Man Watching: A Biography of Anson Dorrance by Tim Crothers - I read this book over twenty-five years ago and was fascinated by this coach's approach to coaching elite female soccer players. It strongly influenced how I served a women's college basketball program for twenty-eight seasons.

Curveball: How I Discovered True Fulfillment After Chasing Fortune and Fame by Bary Zito, Robert Noland - Barry Zito was a remarkably talented pitcher in Major League Baseball and this book provides an unvarnished view of the life of professional sport in the USA. Warts and all. It becomes a tremendous story of redemption and a growing life in Christ Jesus.

Favorite Authors - 

Eugene Peterson - Having received an early version of The Message in the early 1990s, I began searching for more from Peterson, and now my library is rich with his writing. He's a magical blend of pastor, theologian, and expert in ancient languages. His writing is rich with simile, metaphor, and meter.

John R.W. Stott - I began reading his books in the early 1980s and was immediately taken by his clear and direct style. Over the years, I began buying everything I could find from his pen. I was privileged to meet him in person in November of 2000.

Phillip Yancey - I greatly enjoy his writing as he tends to ask really hard questions and then carries the reader along in seeking answers. Yancey deals with thorny issues and offers genuine answers.

C. S. Lewis - Lewis' books are always challenging and insightful. From The Screwtape Letters' allegory to the more direct and candid volumes, the quotable Lewis has stretched my mind and challenged my heart.

Leonard Sweet - I iwas introduced to Sweet through Soul Tsunami in 2000, and was immediately confronted with the reality of how my "modernist' way of thinking would greatly inhibit my ability to communicate with younger "postmodern" thinkers. His writing on other subjects continues to challenge and inform my mind.

Malcolm Gladwell - I have enjoyed reading several of this gentleman's books, though we are widely different in many ways. His curious mind, depth of research, and playful writing style make his books easy reads with accessible insights. 

Effective Leadership of Volunteers

 For as long as I can remember I have volunteered in ministry efforts. First it was with my local church, then in short-term mission ministries, and for the last thirty years with ministries in sport. Across those years I have observed a few keys to effective leadership of volunteers, particularly in ministry efforts. A summary of those keys follows.

1. Give the volunteer one responsibility fitting his or her skills and gifts. Just one. If you give him or her too much, or if the responsibility is a poor fit, the volunteer will become overwhelmed, frustrated, or fail. Worse, the volunteer will simply walk away disappointed.

2. Give the volunteer clear instructions and expectations for the area of responsibility assigned. To fail in this leads to similar frustration, conflicts, and to the volunteer finding something else to do. If the instructions and expectations are too vague, the volunteer will be either too timid to serve well, or will overstep boundaries that were never clearly communicated.

3. Do not micromanage or become overly demanding of the volunteer. Give the person the responsibility and let him or her serve. To micromanage or to become demanding is perceived by the volunteer as a lack of trust and respect, and will result in withdrawal from your ministry.

4. Help the volunteer experience God's presence and pleasure in the activity. Pray with them. Thank God for them. Share exciting results with them. Acknowledge how the Lord is working in them through their selfless service.

5. Welcome their suggestions. I cannot emphasize this enough. Many of the most profound improvements in ministry policies, procedures, and processes have come from volunteers' suggestions. This will not happen if you don't create an avenue for receiving suggestions, and it won't matter if you don't have the humility to hear from people not "on staff."

​6. Celebrate their service and express thanks for it. One size does not fit all, but finding appropriate ways to celebrate volunteers, and expressing thanks frequently is a very important part of leading volunteers well. Some are very gratified to be acknowledged from the platform, while others would far prefer a handshake and a simple, "Thank you." Receiving a handwritten card is always welcomed by volunteers.

​It has been my experience that when these keys are followed, volunteers have great, even life changing experiences with ministries. When that happens, the volunteer will continue to serve week after week, month after month, year after year.

I still volunteer with a ministry I first encountered in 1982. I spend time, money, energy, vacation days, heart, and soul engaged with other volunteers and a very small staff because all six of the aforementioned keys are experienced each time.

Observations from Walking Through the Aging, Declining, and Dying Process with Parents.

Since the summer of 2010, my family has been walking through a difficult, significant, and occasionally traumatic process. On a hot August afternoon my wife and I made a hurried trip to the emergency room where her mother was being treated. It was obvious to me her condition was quite serious and we spoke very directly about the likelihood of this being a terminal situation. By mid-November, she had begun hospice care and she soon passed while I held her hand bedside.

 

In more recent days, we observed my father’s cognitive and then physical decline across three years, and then more rapidly across a couple of months, prior to six days of hospice care in an assisted care facility. My dad passed as I was standing with my mother beside his bed.

 

Earlier this year, my father-in-law also began to decline in health and passed in mid-September. For the last five years or so, Sharon had been caring for him as he lived alone in his home. Despite numerous physical and cognitive conditions, he wanted to remain independent. Sharon managed his finances and drove him to the grocery store, doctor’s appointments, and more. Eventually, a fall and a more rapid decline required a move to the same assisted living facility in which my father passed. A couple of weeks of hospice care and being surrounded by his children preceded his eventual passing early on a Sunday morning.

 

My ninety-year-old mother made the decision to move from her home to a supportive living facility as she was lonely and knew she could not maintain her home any longer. A couple of good conversations between Mom, my two brothers, and me made the process of moving her, selling the home and its contents, a much smoother process. She is in a good apartment, has plenty of independence, is very happy and secure. This pleases all of us.

 

Across these fourteen years, I have observed a number of things about the process itself and how it has shaped us as we have walked through it. Those observations follow.

 

I believe I am far too hurried, rushed, and too easily distracted from important matters and significant moments. In the normal busyness of life as a fifty-four to sixty-eight-year-old person, it’s really easy to miss the important moments of life because I am buzzing by them in a blur. Even in my visits to my parents’ home I would be preoccupied with text messages or phone calls, when I could have been paying better attention to their questions or concerns. I am sure I would have gleaned more wisdom from my father if I had simply left my phone in the car, stayed longer, and listened more intently.

 

There is a wide variety of ways families deal with crisis and stress. Some families deal with these matters by acting if they are not real, hoping it all works out, denying the gravity of the moment. Later in this process the grim reality hits them with a profound thud and it crushes them emotionally. Other families deal directly with a crisis, look it dead in the eye, and stoically move through the process. If they respond emotionally, it’s done privately and all along the way. By the time the crisis has culminated in death, they have largely processed the grief and appear to others to be cold, emotionless, and even uncaring. None of those perceptions are true; they have simply processed the grief across weeks or months, rather than in hours or days. Neither way is better than the other. There is plenty of room for grief and mourning to be done differently.

 

One can improve his approach to these matters, even if he would rather simply avoid them. I grew up with a large extended family, including grandparents and great-grandparents in both my paternal and maternal families. Because of this I grew up in funeral homes. It was most common to be at funeral visitations with my brothers, parents, dozens of aunts, uncles, cousins, and grandparents. I thought this was everyone’s experience until I married my wife. We were twenty-one and had welcomed our son to our young family before she ever attended a funeral. It happened to be my great-grandmother’s funeral and I was stunned by her response to what she was seeing. It was a very emotionally difficult situation for her. In the years since then, she is much better with crises, emergencies, and death, but it’s certainly still very difficult.

 

After her mother’s passing, my wife took on the role of matriarch for her entire family and she does it quite well. It certainly stresses her, but she carries the responsibility with grace and dignity. I now find myself as patriarch for our clan and feel the weight of it. It comes with being the eldest brother and the one living in closest proximity to our mother. Sharon and I are certainly better at dealing with such issues of life today than we were in our twenties. We have learned. We have grown. We have matured.

 

Embracing these situations enriches one’s soul. I think there’s a natural, human desire to avoid pain, crisis, and emotional trauma. We’re human and don’t like the pain. However, I have learned that leaning into, embracing, and dealing directly with all such matters enrich one’s soul. As painful as it was to witness the final breaths of my mother-in-law and my father, these moments were full of important connections, grieving expressions of release, and mournful emotions of profound loss. I wear theses memories like scars on my soul; reminders of pain, but memorials to rich relationships.

 

Having walked through these experiences emboldens my heart for the arrival of the next crisis. I don’t fear it, nor do I want to hasten it. I no longer see it as something to avoid as a lethal enemy, rather I see it coming as a familiar, severe acquaintance with whom to walk for a few hours, days, months, or years.

The Athletes Edge; Coaches Edition

 I was privileged to be a guest on this podcast - The Athletes Edge; Coaches Edition.

Check it out on any of these platforms. Thanks, Tony Everett.

Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/episode/6MCsOPoXUWNdU5wdDmpcvl?si=02IqXXV7Ty-zWgoBCr38SQ

Youtube - https://youtu.be/sZMXh9ZnYvM

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The Past, Present, and Future of Sports Chaplaincy

          Sports chaplaincy, primarily understood to be pastoral care for people engaged in the world of sport, has been a growing form of ministry for more than sixty years. In most places it is called just that, Sports Chaplaincy, however in other environments different language is used to describe what is essentially the same thing. Our ministry, Nations of Coaches, calls us “character coaches,” other ministries use language like, “life coaches,”  “sports shepherds,” or even “sports buddies.” The language is less important than the quality of service provided.

         I will not attempt to offer a history of sports chaplaincy, but to simply reflect upon its past, its present state, and the future for this dynamic ministry opportunity across the globe.

         Past – It seems that sports chaplaincy first emerged as a grass roots attempt to offer Christian ministry to people in the professional sporting world. Many of these people were competing or traveling on Sundays, and were unavailable for worship with their local churches.

I am aware of pioneers in sports chaplaincy in the United Kingdom, Germany, Australia, New Zealand, and the USA. As this form of ministry began to grow, it soon found a home in other levels of sport like collegiate sport in the USA, and at multiple levels of sport in the UK, spreading to other nations as well.

Most of these sports chaplaincy ministries grew from modest, individual opportunities, and grew into healthy, sustainable, and enduring ministries. Some others flashed up quickly, and diminished just as quickly due to a short-term opportunity or a lack of sustained connections. A couple of the longest serving and most enduring sports chaplaincy ministries are Baseball Chapel and Hockey Ministries International.

         Present – Sports Chaplaincy has grown in breadth and depth. It has developed organically as a movement, and organizationally as more formal ministries. It has one set of practitioners who serve exclusively as sports chaplains, and it has another set who practice it among many other forms of ministry in sport.

         The vast majority of people serving in sports ministry are volunteers. They are employed otherwise, but invest a great deal of time, energy, and heart into their service of sportspeople. A relative few people are employed as sports chaplains. Some are in professional sport, and another short set are in collegiate sport in the USA.

         There are a few, well-organized, and wisely led ministries in several industrialized nations. They recruit, train, develop, and lead their people with excellence, vision, and integrity.

         There are myriads of people serving as sports chaplains, some not even knowing what to call it, in more grass roots, entrepreneurial, improvisational, and messy situations. They simply see an opportunity to serve, hear God’s call, and step into the void. Often they do it very well, selflessly, and sacrificially. Occasionally they do it very poorly, encumbered by self-interest, arrogance, and even greed. Some of the novices start hunting for resources, connections, or networks with which to improve their service. When these people connect with established sports chaplaincy ministries, encouragement, equipping, empowerment, and professional development is usually the result.

         Sports Chaplaincy is practiced in the communities of an immense number of sporting environments in both genders. A long but not exhaustive list of sports wherein I am aware sports chaplains are serving is below.

·      Football (soccer)

·      Baseball

·      Softball

·      American Football

·      Australian Rules Football

·      Rugby

·      Ice Hockey

·      Auto racing

·      Motorcycle racing

·      Horse racing

·      Rodeo

·      Netball

·      Basketball

·      Volleyball

·      Cricket

·      Golf

·      Fitness Gyms

·      Athletics (Track and Field)

·      Others beyond my notice

From 2014 through 2024, several leaders of various Sports Chaplaincy ministries around the world collaborated on plans to foster the development of similar ministries in other nations. Countless hours and a tremendous amount of money was invested in this process with almost no results. I and the others participating were frustrated and even disillusioned by our lack of success. I’ll address this more in the next section.

Future – Having observed the growth and development of Sports Chaplaincy for over thirty years, I see some trends I expect to continue for several more years. As mentioned in the previous section, I don’t believe the growth will come via corporate style, organizational structures of ministry. Rather, I believe Sports Chaplaincy is well poised to grow as a movement, more like a virus than a building.

To grow as a movement, Sports Chaplaincy is likely to have all the accompanying messiness and seeming chaos of a movement. It is also likely to be empowered by the usual passion, energy, and vision that come with movements.

The key to growth in any nation will be the communication and relationships built with organizing bodies of sport leading to their embracing Sports Chaplaincy in their respective sports organizations. Whether it’s in professional sporting clubs, amateur sports organizations, youth sports leagues, or even national government entities responsible for sports, their opening of the door to sports chaplains to serve freely, within wise parameters, would be catalytic to growth.

The growth of Sports Chaplaincy as a movement will be facilitated most rapidly as the established organizations share their training, resources, and counsel freely via the internet. When we, the leaders in this ministry, hold our experience and expertise openhandedly and share it freely, the movement will spread. If we can relinquish our need to control the process and trust our Lord to lead, we’ll see massive growth on every continent. We who are in positions of strength, resource, and experience must pay whatever it costs to make excellent training and development opportunities available to an increasing number of languages and cultures. This would please our Lord greatly.

Summary – I believe Sports Chaplaincy stands at the threshold of an exciting season with amazing potential for growth and development. Technological advances have made the sharing of information, training, development, coaching, and mentoring more available to more people, across greater distances than ever before.

If we who have leadership roles in the movement will faithfully and freely serve the emerging hunger for this form of ministry, we will see joyful and rewarding fruits of our labors.